Mother Of The Groom Etiquette & Responsibilities
October 2nd, 2017 Wedding Ideas, Tips and Inspiration
You have been waiting and wondering when this day will come, the day your son will become a married man. You are overjoyed with the excitement and looking forward to the festivities that surround this upcoming wedding. As a mother, you want to help as much as you can so everything goes smoothly. So where do you start? What can you do? Well, we have compiled a list of ideas, do’s and don’ts for the mother of the groom.
For any mother of the groom we recommend communication. Talk to your son and future daughter-in-law to see what it is they would like assistance in and what level of involvement they would like. Some brides and grooms want the mother of the bride and mother of the groom’s to be extremely involved, while some may not want as much help. It is totally up to the bride (and the groom) as far as the level of involvement. So to not step on anyone’s toes, talk to your son and the bride to be. Communication is key! So keep reading and to find out everything you need to know.
Role of Mother of the Groom
Rehearsal dinner: The rehearsal dinner is planned and hosted by the groom’s parents a day or two before the wedding day. The planning starts about 5 to 6 months beforehand. A more intimate event, the rehearsal dinner is a great way for the bride’s and groom’s sides of the family to meet, if they haven’t already, and mingle before the big day. This can range from a formal dinner to an afternoon picnic, depending on what the bride wants.
List of guests from groom’s side of the family: As the mother of the groom, you may need to provide the bride and groom with a list of guests from his side of the family. Before you start telling everyone you know, make sure you as the couple how many guests you can invite. For smaller, more intimate weddings, the couple may only want immediate family and close friends while larger weddings may include the entire family on both sides. Double check with the couple in regards to the number of guests before providing them with the list.
Following up on late RSVPs: You may be asked to call any of your guests who are late in RSVP’ing for the wedding day.
Stand in receiving line: Depending on the formality of the wedding and what the couple wants, you may be asked to stand in the receiving line, along with your spouse. Standing in the receiving line usually entails you and your husband smiling and shaking guests’ hands as they congratulate you and the happy couple on the big day. Some brides will decide to have the wedding party be formally announced at the reception. You and your spouse’s names will be announced as you make your way into the reception while guests applause. This is a chance for your son and daughter-in-law to shine the spotlight on you and your spouse and give you two the recognition that you guys deserve.
Help spread word of the wedding registry: After sending out the invitations to your guests, you can help by spreading word of the couple’s wedding registry.
Help your son with any family traditions: There may be family traditions that have been in your family for decades when it comes to the wedding day. Let the couple know about what they are and help them incorporate them into the reception.
Offer help with venues, vendors and resources: Planning a wedding is a long, time-consuming and detailed process. You can offer help with venues, vendors and other resources you have heard of or been to that the bride may like. Just make sure the bride is open to suggestions. You don’t want to overstep your boundaries and role as the mother of the groom.
Appropriate Mother of the Groom Attire
As the mother of the groom, you want to look your best without outshining your future daughter-in-law. There are amazing mother of the groom dresses that are sophisticated, modern and absolutely beautiful.
The mother of the bride usually buys her dress first then will let you know the color, length and formality of her dress. You can ask the bride if she has anything in mind that she would like to see you in. Depending on the bride, the dress you pick out may not have to be the same length or color as the mother of the bride’s dress. It can be similar shades of colors or colors that complement each other. Communication and coordination is key here to not look out of place and not stand out (in a bad way).
Mother of the Groom and Bridal Shower
Bridal showers are typically thrown by the bride’s side of the family or her close friends. The mother of the groom, along with the groom’s side of the family, are also invited to the bridal shower. It is becoming more common for a bride to have multiple bridal showers, one thrown by family, one by friends, and one by co-workers. If the mother of the groom cannot attend the one the bride’s side of the family hosts, usually because of distance, she can host her own. Just run it by the bride to see if she’ll be okay with this.
Mother of the Groom’s Wedding Day Responsibilities
Mother-son dance: Towards the end of the reception, there is a mother-son dance. This, along with the father-daughter dance, are heart-felt traditions to honor these special people in their lives. Some grooms let their moms pick out the song, while others choose the song together. So this is where you dig deep into all the wonderful memories with your son and choose a song that represents the both of you. The mother-son dance comes first before the father-daughter dance.So there you have it. All you need to know as the mother of the groom to help your loving son on his big day. If you are ready to start shopping for a mother of the groom dress, visit your local authorized retailer and pick out the perfect dress for this special occasion.